After spouses have the initial divorce conversation, one of the immediate concerns is the living arrangement. If you are wondering where to live before your divorce is finalized, you have several options. You can move out or, if possible, remain in the family home.
It’s very common for divorcing spouses to remain under the same roof, especially in a state like Ohio that does not require physical separation before filing for divorce.
This option saves money and maintains immediate stability for children. However, it can also increase the chances of conflict. Running into your soon-to-be ex-spouse now and then can mean constant emotional triggers.
Nonetheless, you can successfully live in the same house during divorce. Here is how you can do this:
Have personal spaces
Designate personal spaces in the house. For example, one of you can move to the guest bedroom, the guest house, or the basement. Having separate living spaces ensures you both have privacy and reduces contact. It’s important to respect each other’s zones.
Live as roommates
You should live as roommates. For starters, discuss how to split expenses. One person may pay rent while the other pays utilities and household expenses. Or you can track and split expenses using a formula that works for you.
Additionally, avoid doing chores for one another, such as laundry or cooking. Doing chores independently and dividing household responsibilities allows you to stop operating as a married couple.
You should also discuss how to use communal/shared spaces to reduce contact. For instance, one can cook two hours before the other.
Have a parenting schedule
If you have children, consider creating a temporary parenting plan that addresses school drop-offs and pick-ups, extracurricular activities, homework etc.
Remaining in the family home during divorce can be beneficial when approached correctly. Learn more about other steps to take to protect your interests.